Day 4 for Saturday, May 4th: Favorite quote (from a person, from a book, etc) and why you love it
I probably heard this quote before, but the first time it really meant anything to me was when I heard it at my church while attending a funeral for a high school acquaintance named Jimmy.
I say acquaintance, because he was not a friend, but a guy I had gone to grade school with and had known since we were little. We had been in each others classes over the years and while we were never friends, Jimmy was always very kind and funny.
He died unexpectedly and out of the blue.
No one saw it coming and everyone was devastated.
He had taken his own life.
He had committed suicide.
I sat there listening to all these wonderful people talk about him and share life stories that they had experienced with him. It was a very bitter sweet day as funerals usually are.
Either way it has stuck with me and whenever I think about this quote I think of Jimmy and vice versa. It's pretty self explanatory. I think it gets right to the point.
Day 3 for Friday, May 3rd: Things that make you uncomfortable.
Here are 8 of mine:
Small talk. I hate small talk. I always feel weird and awkward and never know what to say, or more importantly, what to ask to keep the conversation going. Everything at that moment just slips my brain.
Phone talk. I guess it depends on who it is, but usually I much rather text or email or Facebook someone than actually talk to them. Is that bad? Probably, but I don't really care.
Nylons. Like the full on panty-hose that you wear with dresses and skirts. I'm totally good with knee highs or even thigh highs, but the full ones try I try and avoid if I can.
My bubble. Don't enter my personal space.
Backseats. I get motion sickness so I prefer sitting in the front seat, but I know that's not always and option.
Too tight clothes. Either that I am wearing or that I see someone else wear. Either way...so uncomfortable.
Dirty feet. I hate when my feet feel dirty.
No phone. Being without my cell phone at any given time makes me so crazy uncomfortable. I literally feel like I am missing a limb.
Day 2 for Thursday, May 2nd: Educate us on something you know a lot about or are good at. Take any approach you'd like (serious and educational or funny and sarcastic).
I think this topic has so many people stumped, because we don't like giving our self praise or feel like we are bragging about being good at something. We don't want anyone to think we are full of ourselves.
I decided to do this 30 day blog challenge, then I wrote Day 1, posted it and only AFTER doing that and pledging I would participate for the full 31 days did I read the topic for Day 2.
Shit.
I was stumped. After thinking about what to write for a good 24 hours, I asked my Husband for some inspiration and the first thing out of his mouth was:
"You're a good Wife."
So I decided to run with it, cause I DO think I'm a good Wife. Am I the best one ever? No. But I think I am a pretty darn good one. Here are my top 5 tips for being a good Wife.
1. Respect.
You need to HAVE a good Husband in order to BE a good Wife. No one wants to do things for the other person if they don't get anything in return, right? So do things for each other. The term I always use is "I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine."
Example: My Husband helps with things around the house. Like simple things. Dishes, laundry, picking up the house. He knows that the thing I loathe the most is coming home from work all day and then having to continue to do more. It's usually just Hailey and I at night and I don't want to waste my night-time with her doing chores. Is it scrubbing the toilets and cleaning the house from top to bottom? No. But I don't care. It's the little things that make my day and I am so grateful for that. He helps me out in those ways and I help him out in the bedroom. Twss.
2. Be Supportive.
You might not agree with everything they do, but still try and be supportive. Just because it's not important to you, doesn't mean that it's not important to them.
Example: My Husband is REALLY into wrestling. Like the WWE wrestling you see on TV. Do I love it? No. Do I want to sit down and watch 3 hours of Monday Night Raw with him every week? Do I want to go to local wrestling shows? No and No. But that doesn't mean that HE can't. Just like he doesn't want to spend hours watching any of my silly shows (i.e. Bachelor/ette). We each are our own person and I like it that way.
3. Make the time.
That's not to say we don't do ANYTHING together either. We have our shows that we MUST watch together. No exceptions.
Example: It's changed over the years, but most recently it has been The Walking Dead or The Following or New Girl or Bob's Burgers. Find what you can watch together and make the effort. Even if we don't watch it on that night, we will sit down at some point that week and make the time.
4. Communicate & Listen.
Just talk. Have conversations about things, even if it is as simple as your day to day happenings. Men want to be heard just as much as women do. They want to know that you are really hearing them and what they have to say.
Example: Me and my Husband are on opposite schedules. It isn't ideal, but we make the best of it. We try and take out time in our day to just catch up on stuff. We talk on the phone or text or talk at night before bed. Any way of showing the other person you are there even in the hectic times.
And last, but certainly not least,
5. "Guy" time.
Let them have it. Whatever that may be.
Example: For my Husband it is playing video games. One word of advice, don't try and change them and their "hobbies." Let them play the damn video games. This goes back to #2. With however silly I think video games are, it just doesn't matter. Does it interfere with life? No, and it makes him happy. If that's the most I have to "worry" about then I am fine with that. He's not an alcoholic or a druggie and he doesn't beat me or our child. Nuff said.
Are their any good tips you have that you have learned over the years?
I have decided to jump on the bandwagon of Jenni's "Blog every day in May Challenge" going on over on her blog Story of My Life. I usually enjoy these prompts because I often struggle with things to write about.
Day 1 for Wednesday, May 1st is the story of your life in 250 words or less.
So here is mine.
I was born April 9, 1983 in Montevideo, Minnesota. I grew up on a farm until I was about 4. My parents were married when I was 6. My Mom had me at 16. We lived with my Grandparents until moving around to Detroit Lakes (Pre-school), Alexandria (Kindergarten), Plymouth (1st Grade), Bloomington (2nd grade) and finally Eden Prairie (3rd grade). My parents have lived in the same house ever since. My brother, Ross, was born when I was 8. When I was 11, my sister, Keli Jo was born. She died 3 months later from SIDS. It changed me and my family forever. I think it brought us much closer. I was 14 when my sister, Amie, was born. I was 16 when my sister, Kate, was born. I started working as a photographer at 16 for a local studio. I worked there until I got a big girl job at 20. That was also the year I met my Hubs. I knew after just a month of dating him, that he was the one for me. I was engaged at 21; married at 23. We got our first 2 pups the same year we were married. We then inherited 2 more 2 years later. I became a Mom to Hailey Jo in June 2011. I still do photography on the side. My full time job is a Paralegal and I’ve been doing that for almost 10 years. I love my family and my life. That’s me in a nutshell.
On October 25th we FINALLY went in for your 15 month appointment. Only a month late, no biggie, right?
You weighed 24 lbs (80%). You are 31 inches tall (52%). Your head is 18 inches (46%).
You are just so funny and goofy all the time.
You can find endless ways to entertain yourself.
You have been going to school now a couple days a week.
You still cry when we drop you off, but are always a happy camper when we pick you up.
You are in what they call the "Busy Babies" room.
You are learning to use sign language at school.
You were the Star of the Month at school.
You love to paint and get dirty.
You make cute projects at school.
You still love to play outside. Especially at school. They have all sorts of neat toys and a big jungle gym.
You love to climb.
You still love to swing.
You would stay outside ALL day if we let you.
You also love to go to the mall and play. I can see us doing this regularly this winter.
You went to a Lynx playoff game on October 14, 2012.
You still sit in the cart pretty good, as long as you are holding something.
You love to make a mess with your toys.
You don't like cleaning them up though.
You love to dig in the cereal containers at Papa's house.
You are so adorable in your new winter peacoat that I got at Old Navy.
We get so many compliments on it.
You are wearing mostly 18 month clothes.
You are wearing size 4 diapers.
You love to sit in your princess chair and watch cartoons.
You are still a good rider in the car.
You always look so peaceful when sleeping.
You went to another family wedding on Saturday, October 20th.
You danced your little heart out all night long and were the hit of the reception!
You are getting into all sorts of crazy places.
You love to wear Mama's slippers or shoes and walk around the house.
You ate some yummy Mac & Cheese at the Fall Family Festival at school on Thursday, October 25th.
You are trying and eating all sorts of things.
You love "nanas." (Bananas)
You still love bath time.
You love to give your puppies kisses. Bella is the only one that will actually let you.
You love your Daddy to pieces.
You think he is so funny, which he truly is.
You love to be the center of attention. I wonder where you got that from.
You started on a real bedtime routine this month. We watch Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood in the living room as quiet time with a sippy cup of milk. Then we head into your room and sit in your chair and read a few books. Then we lay you down in your crib for "Night Night."
You do not take the bottle anymore before bed. We got rid of that cold turkey and did the cry it out method. It took a few nights, but you caught on fast.
You have the cutest little smile!
You are just so precious to us and we love you so very much!!
