Thursday, March 8, 2018

Love > Hate

Love > Hate
Thursday, March 8, 2018
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I've been slowly putting together this post over the last few weeks partly because I didn't know 100% on what I wanted to all put into it because to me there is just so much I could say, but mostly because I just haven't had time. Between being slammed at work (read: our receptionist/legal secretary walked out) all the home VGK games which kept Wayne busy and me being a single parent most nights, putting our beloved 11 year old cocker spaniel, Puckett, down after him being sick for 3 weeks, Disneyland with the family and just life in general.

I just haven't had much time for this little space as I had hoped for this year so far.

But back to the topic of this post because I am still seeing various things in which I want to touch and write about.




I've seen a lot of various responses from people over the last few weeks when someone, like me, brings up even the topic of gun reform and the hope of one day seeing some sort of gun reform talk be STARTED. Some sort of change. I am not naive to the fact that it's not going to happen overnight and that it will not solve or fix all the gun problems or violence in this country. There are way too many issues for that.

But when I say Nevada has little to no gun law. That scares me. When I know there is no state to state gun law. That scares me. When you can buy guns at a gun show or online and there is no regulation or registration for that.

And I am not saying I am the most knowledgeable about guns or laws, but that shouldn't matter if you are or not. You should still want gun regulation.

Instead I hear:

"Let's just love one another."

"If people were more accepting of other's, than things like this wouldn't happen."

"Gun reform isn't going to change anything."

"Guns are not the problem, _________ is." Insert another excuse.

Now let me preface this with saying, I agree. In a perfect world we would all love each other and be more accepting of others, there would also be no poor people, no hungry people, no homeless, everyone would be able to be their authentic selves without getting ridiculed for it. The list goes on and on.

But to me the one constant from these people that I keep hearing these GOD DAMN excuses from are people who voted for Trump and support someone who is the epitome of hate and nonacceptance. Someone whose main goal is to stir the pot and make sure it's being stirred on a daily basis.

Some of these people also support a Vice President who believes that "conversion therapy" ACTUALLY works. Really? We're back to that?

I don't like to lump all Conservatives into one basket. Just like I don't like it when someone lumps all Democrats into one basket.

But I cannot support a political party who doesn't support the LGBTQ community. A political party who supports white supremacist groups. Who still use words like fa**ot and ni**er. To me THOSE things are what are driving this country into the ground. In no way shape or form is that "Making America Great Again."

How can you preach all those inclusive things when the very people you are supporting are the exact opposite of love and acceptance?

Don't tell me that if the shooter wasn't white, then the excuses would be ISIS or religion or whatever else you can pin it on. It's always an excuse.

Preaching love and acceptance, but then not really supporting it in the real world or calling someone out on their bullshit when using derogatory words like that because it's all just in fun. I have people in my own family that still use those words and have this way of thinking. Don't think that they don't know how I feel about it. They do.



Talking about humanization and how people relate to each other, but then not being accepting of someone for who they really are and supporting an agenda that tears people down instead of lifting people up.

I say you look in the mirror. What are you doing to help with that?

Thursday, February 15, 2018

I'd Be Lying

I'd Be Lying
Thursday, February 15, 2018
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I'd be lying if I didn't say that the mass school shooting this week didn't affect me differently than it ever has before. I first got the alert on my phone through FB as some of the news stations in town were picking it up. I login to FB and pull it up on my work computer. I watch the news footage as they don't have the shooter apprehended yet. He was still "at large." My stomach dropped.

It comes out that it is a student, later to be found out he was an ex-student. Shortly thereafter he was taken into custody in a nearby neighborhood. Not even on campus anymore.

As they are showing various footage of the hospitals and outside the school campus, the news stations start interviewing the kids as they are coming out and parents as they are picking up their children after this horrible event.

As a parent I can't even imagine what was going through their minds. Some of them getting texts from their children while at work saying "the school is on lockdown, but I am safe."

Followed by "I'm scared, Mom." or "I love you, Dad."


I hope I never receive a text like that from either of my kids (or anyone I know for that matter). My wish would be that no parent ever has to receive some sort of text like that. I know my Husband went through some version of this with me on October 1st. He also prays that no one has to go through what he went in his position of having a loved one on the other side of this.

The scenes that some of these kids...just KIDS...were describing were the same types of scenes for me at Route 91. Running past bodies, not really knowing if they were dead or alive. So much blood. The sound of gunfire, crying, screaming and yelling. The mixed feelings of being scared and hopeless and then total confusion and shock of what you have just witnessed and went through.

My heart aches for these children and adults alike that had to experience what I experienced. For those people that have experienced it in the past and for those that will experience it in the future because as sad is it is, it will happen again. I never would wish anything like this on anyone.

Not only is it a mass shooting, that in and of itself is scary and heart wrenching, but then on top of that to be at a school.

A parent sent their child off to school that day not knowing that they would never see them again.

A spouse sent their significant other off to work that day not knowing that they would never see them again.

To be honest, you don't have to be a parent and be outraged. You should be outraged no matter what that this keeps happening. They all use the same gun. Literally google the phrase "what gun did the shooter use" and it will be the AR-15. If this is the same gun people keep using over and over again, why has nothing been done? People just throw their hands in the air like it's no big deal.

I just don't get it.

And to be more honest...I'm sick of the "thoughts and prayers" response. I'm sick of the "our nation needs to come together in this time of crisis" response. I'm sick of the "it's too early to talk about guns and gun reform." No. It's not. Because you can't tell me that it's not going to happen again. All I hear when people say that shit is BLAH, BLAH, BLAH. I've heard it all before and I will hear it all again. At some point it falls on deaf ears.

Words at this point mean NOTHING. Absolutely NOTHING to me.

 And let me tell you...people that are pro gun reform don't want to TAKE AWAY ALL YOUR GUNS and if you think that then get out of your own damn head and into someone else's that has been through this shit firsthand. Have a fucking conversation about it and talk. Don't just revert to the 2nd Amendment and it's my right...BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.



And is this the solution to it all? No. This is just one step in a fucked up system that needs to be changed. But we have to start somewhere. We can't just throw our hands up in the air anymore and "pray" about it and "think" about it and continue to make EXCUSES for NOT DOING ANYTHING.
Wednesday, January 31, 2018

What's Up Wednesday {1.31.2018}

What's Up Wednesday {1.31.2018}
Wednesday, January 31, 2018
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What we are eating this week...

Our family has fell in love with Zupas. They have sandwiches, soups and salads. I personally love the Strawberry Harvest Chicken salad.


They opened up a Giordano's right by our house, so of course we had to partake in that awesomeness.



What I'm reminiscing about...

Warmer weather. I know our winter's are different than most people's, but I am craving some heat and pool weather.

What I'm loving...

Our new pots and pans set.


My new Yeti.



My new make-up brush.


And my bracelets from my BFF Katie.



What we've been up to...

We went to the Vegas Golden Knights Fan Fest.




We took Hailey to see Pitch Perfect 3.


And just this past weekend we took Griffin for his first time skating. As you can see from the pictures, he is not a fan.




What I'm dreading...

I feel like the last month our little family has been sick a lot. We are all healthy at the moment (knock on wood), but I just hate when they get sick.

What I'm working on...

I am trying to get organized with pictures and this blog.

What I'm excited about... 

I'm excited for the future for my little family. The D Fam has lots of fun things planned in the next few months, so stay tuned!

What I'm watching/reading...

We've been watching a lot of hockey in our house.

What I'm listening to...







What I'm wearing...

Jeans, blouses, cardigans, flannels and slip on shoes. Leggings of course are always on repeat. I have really been into moto leggings. They are so comfy.

What I'm doing this weekend...

Friday night we are planning on going to a Pancreatic Cancer fundraiser event at a jump park. Saturday morning I am getting my tattoo that I have been wanting. Saturday afternoon we are finally bringing all the crayons and coloring books to the children's hospital and then we have to run some errands before Wayne leaves for Nashville for a country music convention on Sunday morning.

I don't really care about the Superbowl, but I definitely want to watch JT and then This Is Us is a new episode right after the Superbowl, so I have to get caught up on that.

What I'm looking forward to next month...

More Golden Knights games, another Pancreatic Cancer benefit, Valentine's Day

What else is new...

The building I work in is for sale, so we will be moving locations within the next few months. I am so excited to move and get into a new space.

I felt like January went by so fast, but took so long all at the same time.

Thanks for reading friends!

Saturday, January 13, 2018

Sunday Social {1.14.2018}

Sunday Social {1.14.2018}
Saturday, January 13, 2018
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If we were meeting for coffee these are the things I would be telling you about today...

1. 2018 so far has been rough. Griffin fell asleep early with a high fever on New Years Eve night. He was sick from NYE Sunday until Friday, 1/5. It was NOT a fun week and very stressful and trying at times.

2. With Griffin being sick I was at work for a total of 2 days last week. Ugh. That pretty much put me behind for this week. Never fun playing catch up. I am thankful for the Hubs and his willingness to stay home a couple of days, too, so I didn't have to be the only one.

3. As of today's posting I still have my Christmas tree up. Technically, it's still January, so we're OK, right? I am just so unmotivated to take it down and put away all my Christmas decor.

4. Wayne is in Memphis, TN on a work trip, which means I am solo parenting. He left early Thursday morning and comes back this afternoon. And let me tell you, I MISS HIM SO DANG MUCH!! He is very rarely ever gone for an extended period of time, but when he is, it is NOTICED in this house.

5. I am riding the struggle bus today. I have about 5 loads of laundry that need to be sorted, folded and put away. No joke. 5!! I have poop in the backyard that desperately needs to be picked up, and as said above, I need to take down our tree, put Christmas away and get our house back to normal.

6. And last but not least, if you follow me on any sort of social media (which you should), you already know that Hailey was acknowledged at her school for a few awards. One for being an all around great leader in her classroom, one from her P.E. teacher and a third from her library teacher. We are so very proud of her.


Hope everyone has a great weekend, especially if you have Monday off!!

Wednesday, January 10, 2018

New Specs

New Specs
Wednesday, January 10, 2018
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So with the start of the new year I decided to purchase glasses that filter out the blue light from the computer. I sit and look at a computer all day at my full-time job and then if I do any work in the evenings at home with the blog or just general computer browsing, that is additional time in front of the screen everyday.

I do get frequent headaches and occasionally suffer from aura migraines. If you ever have had an aura migraine, you know that they are not fun.

I have been thinking about getting some version of these glasses for quite sometime as I have always worked in front of the computer, but I just hadn't pulled the trigger yet.

Until the New Year.

I had been seeing a lot about them recently. A few people I follow on social media and a few bloggers have them and have had great reviews. They are not expensive at all ($20 from Amazon) and they are super cute. So I pulled the trigger and ordered them.


I've only had them for a few days, so it will take some time to figure out if they really work for me or not, but it can't hurt trying right? Especially when they're this cute? I'll keep you updated.

Thanks for reading friends!
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